choose the Red Chair for the long viewDawn Kotzer
See the Red Chair?
The choices we get to make each day are a little like the red chair. Seemingly insignificant compared to the long view but once you know where to look, kind of hard to miss.
Of-course, first we have to understand that we do get to choose.
As a life and creativity coach, I help people find a way to live life, their way, by tapping into their creative source. That’s easy when you feel engaged, plugged into something that revs your spirit…not so easy if you find yourself bogged down, putting in time, pushing through the motions in a state of being you barely recognize as your own.
A lot of people feel they have no choice at all…nada. Someone else is in charge, in control. They feel that all they can do is hop around, jerked this way or that by the person who’s holding the strings.
Many times someone else is in charge…on the outside. The real issue is who’s in charge on the inside?
What if we live life from the inside-out, not the outside-in?
What if life were like a movie production…written, directed, produced and promoted by the part of our self that is the most compelling on any given day?
Picture yourself sitting in the red chair on the edge of a northern lake; blue sky, warm summer breeze, fish jumping, eagles and pelicans soaring silently overhead…tranquil, peaceful. No phone, no cell, no laptop, no hassle, no hurry.
In this moment of serenity, what thoughts come up?
Do your thoughts embrace the natural balance of your surroundings? Do you move into a state of appreciation and embrace the cosmic events that have led you here?
Do your thoughts highlight the isolation of this place?
Do you move into a state of stress; apprehension and anxiety about this unknown landscape?
What choices come up to keep those thoughts company?
What if there were only two?
Respond…feel the embrace, the appreciation.
React…feel the stress and apprehension.
- Respond. Through observation and awareness, this choice opens you up to step closer to the place of possibility for your greater good, your creative source.
- React. Your body rewards this unhealthy nervousness by producing stress and limiting the possibility for your greater good.
Remember the movie production? Written, directed, produced and promoted by the part of our self that is the most compelling on any given day?
Which choice, Respond or React, would most effortlessly honour your true self, the place where creative source is found?
I know what you’re thinking.
Lady, life isn’t a cakewalk down to the nearest lake where a perfectly placed plush red chair awaits you…
(Do you know how tricky it was for me to drag that chair from the my living room down to the water’s edge? Tricky. Real tricky. Keeping one eye open for slippery rocks, the other eye obscured by the chair balancing on my shoulder, it was all I could do to sidestep my cat who had decided to play footsy with me the whole way down. Yeesh. I’m clumsy at the best of times…chair wielding, rock clambering, cat dancing activities are not my strong suit.)
Even so, getting the chair down to the lake is no comparison to slogging through a tough day. I know life is not always a peaceful, easy stroll to the water’s edge.
What does get easy, with a little practice is choosing to Respond rather than React…choosing to allow room for your greater good, for a chance to plug into your creative source.
When can you start?
- Start now.
How can you start?
- Start small.
Where can you start?
- Start with the easy things.
When someone asks you which restaurant you prefer, which author you like best, which movie you want to go to, if you want to go out or stay home and work on your stuff…
Choose to Respond.
Answer them honestly. Answer yourself honestly.
Visualize sitting in the Red Chair on the water’s edge, taking in the long view.
Take a breath.
Appreciate the question.
Embrace the long view.
Answer from the inside out.
If it makes you nervous to answer out loud, to give your honest opinion, that’s okay. Answer silently.
Perhaps it’s not yet time to say it out loud.
The simple act of knowing you have a choice, understanding you can either Respond or React is enough for now.
Practice appreciating this new found understanding.
Practice tapping into that place of possibility for your greater good, your creative source one small step at a time.
Then someday, in a voice you know as your own, you will calmly, quietly Respond from the inside out.
Want to Laugh More, Love More, Live more? Curious about how your Inner Genius, Creativity, Pursuit of Meaning and the Success Experience connect naturally? Find out at dawnkotzer.com. I’m a Certified Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coach, Modern Muse Group Facilitator, Artist and Martha Beck Certified Life Coach engaging life from my Boreal Forest home in Saskatchewan, Canada.
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